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Both Parents Necessary to Support Kids' Self-Awareness
April 1, 2019 at 12:00 AM
by Kids Deserve Dads
<strong>Both Parents Necessary to Support Kids' Self-Awareness</strong>

It isn't often that a divorced father gets to talk to his children about the impact that the divorce has had on them. Often, the father's absence in the child's life in the early years of the divorce usually creates a situation that makes it difficult, if not impossible, to breach the divide.

Despite many fathers' best efforts, they are denied the opportunity to participate in critical milestones in their kids' life. This situation can create difficulties that will impact them for the rest of their lives. These issues include, but are certainly not limited to:

  • trust issues 
  • lack of support and encouragement
  • problems developing long-term relationships
  • self-identity issues

It's one thing to listen to the child psychologists and relationship experts wax eloquent about the effect that divorce has on children, but it's a whole 'nother thing to attempt to address these issues with an adult offspring. Too much water has passed under the bridge. Nobody will deny the importance of both parents being involved in a child's life.  The problem is, few people do more than talk about it.

Equal Time For Fathers

Kids Deserve Dads, founded by Zac Martin in 2017, is a non-profit organization based in Cheyenne, Wyoming, with locations in Colorado, Nebraska, and South Dakota. We are committed to addressing the sad truth that children are often weaponized during and after a contentious divorce or separation. We are dedicated to the proposition that a "village" can play an important role in the grand scheme of things, but what it really takes to raise a child is two parents, and nothing should stand in the way of a committed father who wants to be a part of his kids' life.  

Seeking Legislative Intervention

The time that a father is allowed to spend with his children is too important to be left in the hands of emotional parents and lawyers. That is why we are supporting local and national shared parenting legislation. Presently, approximately 25 states are working on laws that will legally give fathers equal access to their children. Our goal is to make it 50.

Programs To Support Children and Parents

Here at Kids Deserve Dads, we host a weekly Parental Separation Satsang. "Satsang" is a Sanskrit word that means "come together for truth." The purpose of the Satsang is to allow us the opportunity to come together and speak the truth about our situations and give each other support and feedback as we navigate the most difficult times of our lives.  We also host an annual "Fathers' Day Rally." The purpose of the rally is to bring attention to the "significant disparity between the time kids spend with each parent." Businesses and organizations in the community support our efforts by donating money and merchandise to us for events designed to encourage families to spend more time together.

Help Wanted

Unfortunately, it is most often the father who has to fight for equal time with the children. Kids Deserve Dads is making it our mission to make sure that divorced fathers play more than just a token role in their kids' life. We need your help. Your help can come in the form of financial contributions, volunteering to assist in preparation for upcoming events, or sharing our mission with your friends. We need money, and we need bodies. It's going to take the collective effort of a pro-active constituency willing to go the distance to assure that competent fathers get the right to spend equal time with their children.